BY LENORE SKENAZY | When he was 19, Richard Slavin, a nice Jewish boy from the suburbs of Chicago, went backpacking in Europe for two months.
“Hey,” I told him. “I have a son about to do the same thing.”
“But,” Slavin added with a twinkle, “I never came back!”
With that he gave a hearty laugh — as jolly a sound as the ice cream man’s bell. Pure joy. He could laugh now — he was laughing now, in a conference room in Midtown, in town for a book tour — because at 60-something and bald, he is no longer the wandering hippie of 1970. In fact, he is no longer even Richard Slavin. Today he is Radhanath Swami, one of the most prominent leaders of the Hare Krishnas.
The swami was dressed in coral-colored robes, as well as a coral sweatshirt that he took off in the warm corporate office. His assistant jumped up to fold it for him, but the swami — spiritual leader to millions — nonchalantly did it himself. This is not a guy who lives a Kardashian life. He’s a monk. He sleeps on the floor. He rises at 4 every morning for chanting and meditation — and breakfast isn’t until 9!
So how does a suburban American kid end up living in India, leading a congregation that feeds 300,000 impoverished children a day, along with running a hospital, an orphanage, a handful of eco-villages, and about a dozen schools for the very poor?
The swami smiled and raised his eyebrows as I asked. He looked as surprised as me.
And by the way, in between all these India duties, the swami travels the world to lecture at campuses across the states, including Google’s and Harvard’s, talking about things like spirituality and stress.
“I have to admit to them that swamis have as much stress as them,” he chuckled. “It’s just a matter of how you deal with it.”
The trek from footloose teen to spiritual leader is what his first book, “The Journey Home: Autobiography of an American Swami,” was about. A bestseller. His latest book, “The Journey Within: Exploring the Path of Bhakti,” is about the spiritual lessons learned along the way.
The lessons did not come easily. After he landed in Europe, Slavin hitchhiked across the continent in search of truth.
“I was going to cathedrals and synagogues to study, because I really believed in the unity of all religions,” he recalled.
He studied Islam in Turkey and Iran. By the time he got to India to study the religions there, “I became a very serious ascetic. I would never sleep inside any building, because I considered that too luxurious. So I slept under trees, or in caves.”
Now, readers, here I must confess something: This man grew up one suburb away from mine. He went to my rival high school and is just about 10 years older. When we discussed our favorite childhood haunts, he gleefully recalled the local pancake house and summers on Lake Michigan, though, “As a swami, I can’t tell you what we used to do when we’d sneak onto the beach.” Another laugh.
The point is, he comes from a background very familiar to me. But… most of us did not go off and sleep in caves. How on earth did his parents react?
When he finally returned to America for the first time, he said, “It was a culture shock for me and a culture shock for them. My father and brother came to meet me at the airport. The only luggage I had was a begging bowl. They didn’t know what to think. But we adjusted to each other in a very sweet and wonderful way.”
That’s probably because the swami was not the caricature that many of us had or even still have of the Hare Krishnas — lost souls in loose robes chanting in the streets and offering flowers. Cult members.
“In every religion there’s wacky people,” the swami said matter of factly. Because the Hare Krishna religion only became established in America in 1966, right around the time of the counterculture, the two got entwined in the public mind. Lost souls did join. So what?
Hare Krishna is not an American fad. It’s an ancient Indian religion that says we are all one — humans, animals, all of us who seek sustenance here on earth. And when we chant the name of Krishna — God — we get closer and closer to realizing that connectedness.
That doesn’t sound any dippier than going to church or temple. And if it makes people ready to build schools, respect nature, and provide for the very poor, more power to it — and the former Richard Slavin.
But if my son is reading this, please note: Do not stay away for 40 years!
Lenore Skenazy is author and founder of the book and blog “Free-Range Kids,” and a contributor at Reason.com.
