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'Friends' 20 years later: What we learned about being young and single in NYC

Ross, Rachel and crew had to navigate the dating scene in NYC in the primitive times before Tinder (gasp!), but many of the lessons they taught us about finding love in this crazy city still hold true today. Luckily, 20 years after "Friends" first aired, the show is coming to Netflix, so we can relive those lessons, again and again, as we swipe left and right from our couches. While you look for your "lobster," remember these 10 tips.

Dating your friends will get awkward

Oh, you thought you could take your friendship
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Oh, you thought you could take your friendship to the next level and not tell the people you hang out with every day? Sneaking around might be fun at first... but let Chandler and Monica tell you how that will go. This city might be big, but our social circles are small and our apartments are even smaller, which means privacy is tough to come by.

...But it can also be worth it

In this fast-paced, dog-eat-dog city, true, lasting friendships
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In this fast-paced, dog-eat-dog city, true, lasting friendships shouldn't be taken for granted. If you've been burned one too many times by someone you met at a bar, maybe it's time to think about the people closest to you-- and why it is they've stayed in your life. If you go about it the right way, you might just find that your "lobster" has been there all along.

Be kind through break-ups

You may think that living in a city
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You may think that living in a city of about 8.4 million people gives you the ok to burn your ex's belongings, live tweet your break-up and spread STD rumors without him or her ever catching wind of it, but newsflash: you're wrong. Neither of you is going to want to give up custody of your favorite local coffee shop (so much better than Starbucks!), bar (insane happy hour prices!) or bodega (the cashier understands you!), so get ready for awkward run-ins, like, all the time. And that's the best case scenario. Worst case, you have mutual friends, live in the same building or even adopted a cat together. Either way, try to be civil. Remember how hard it was for everyone every time Ross and Rachel broke up?

Food is the way to a New Yorker's heart

New Yorkers love food. They live their lives
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New Yorkers love food. They live their lives completely certain that no one has their city beat on Italian food, Chinese food, bagels... you name it. So don't try to contradict them, no matter where you're originally from, but do wow them with a great new restaurant you discovered or a recipe you picked up. Just remember Joey Tribbiani and never, ever, expect them to share with you. (But if you're the one with the cooking skills, like Monica, do expect your roommates and their significant others to cash in on your creations. They're hungry too, and Seamless takes forever sometimes.)

You never know who you might meet

Feeling down on your luck? You're in the
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Feeling down on your luck? You're in the right place. Take up a new hobby, join an intramural sports league, start frequenting a new bar at the very least (we know there are plenty within walking distance you're ignoring), or, fortunately for you, chances are someone new could walk into your place of work or start frequenting your local dog park at any time. Remember that time Monica met the tech millionaire who walked into her diner, asked her out and tipped her $20,000? Ok, don't get your hopes that high. But still, you never know what crazy things could happen on a regular old Tuesday in NYC.

On a break? Proceed with caution

Temptation is everywhere in NYC, but you're most
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Temptation is everywhere in NYC, but you're most likely on a break so you can take some time to work on yourself and clear your head... not so you can have a fling with the hot girl at the bar. Hear that, Ross? Seriously, keep yourself in check during this very delicate time in a relationship, or it will come back to haunt you for-ev-er.

Don't date someone your friends hate

Everyone has that overly judgmental friend whose opinion
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Everyone has that overly judgmental friend whose opinion must be taken with a grain of salt, but as a rule, if all or most of your friends can't stand the person you're dating, there's probably a reason. Plus, being with someone your friends like to be around is way more fun for everyone involved. But from the other side, do make an effort to get to know your best friend's significant other, even if your first impression wasn't the best. Joey and Janice's Day of Fun was a bust, but hey, he tried for Chandler's sake.

Don't make a pros and cons list

New Yorkers are go-getters, and we're used to
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New Yorkers are go-getters, and we're used to finding the most efficient way to complete a task or form a conclusion. Being opinionated is expected in this city, but when it comes to dating, don't reduce someone to a list of what you do or don't like about them on a piece of paper. (Or in your iPhone notepad. Or in an email to your best friend.) It will come out eventually, and you will look like a giant jerk. There are better, less emotionally scarring ways to sort out your feelings. Sorry, Ross.

New Yorkers are hard to get over

Just as it's hard to leave New York
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Just as it's hard to leave New York City once you've fallen in love with the place, it's not easy to forget the people you meet here. Like the city itself, they'll challenge you constantly, and sometimes even make you miserable. But on a good day, you're on top of the world. If one broke your heart, we feel your pain... but don't pull a Ross and try to move on before you're ready, please. Poor Emily.

Being single can be awesome

If you've found the one, that's great. But
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If you've found the one, that's great. But if you aren't so sure, don't force it! There are too many people to meet and things to accomplish and places to see to waste your time worrying that you don't have a ring on your finger. Just think about everything Rachel would have missed out on had she married Barry against her better judgement. Moral of the story: It's better to be the crazy girl in the coffee shop wearing her wedding dress than to be the girl living with regrets. You live in the greatest city in the world-- and you have free reign to do everything YOU want to do. Enjoy it!

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